The dowry system, one of the most deep-rooted social evils in our society, continues to haunt families even in the 21st century. Despite decades of awareness campaigns, laws, and social reforms, the practice of demanding and giving dowry has not disappeared. It may have changed forms, but its impact remains as strong as ever.
The Weight of Tradition
In many communities, dowry is still considered a “custom” rather than a crime. Families, under the pressure of social expectations, give expensive gifts, property, or cash to the groom’s side. The belief that a daughter’s marriage is incomplete without dowry keeps this system alive. For many parents, it is not love or education but financial status that becomes the deciding factor for their daughter’s future partner.
Legal Measures vs. Ground Reality
India has strict laws against dowry. The Dowry Prohibition Act (1961) clearly states that demanding or giving dowry is illegal. Alongside, there are countless government campaigns, TV advertisements, and NGO initiatives that encourage people to say “no” to dowry. Yet, in reality, the law is often ignored. The fear of social backlash or breaking a marriage keeps many families silent.
Modern Disguises of Dowry
Today, dowry may not always be demanded openly. Instead, it is masked as “gifts,” “contributions,” or “help” from the bride’s family. Expensive cars, furniture, jewelry, and even property are expected in the name of “tradition.” While people boast about being modern, educated, and progressive, many still consider dowry a symbol of status.
Consequences of the System
Financial Burden: Families of brides often take loans or sell assets to meet dowry demands.
Domestic Violence: Failure to satisfy expectations frequently leads to harassment, abuse, and in extreme cases, dowry deaths.
Gender Inequality: Dowry reinforces the idea that daughters are a “burden” while sons are an “asset.”
Emotional Trauma: Women suffer lifelong humiliation and pressure due to this unfair system.
Why Does It Still Exist?
Social pressure and fear of rejection in marriage alliances.
A mindset that equates dowry with prestige.
Lack of strict implementation of laws.
Deep-rooted patriarchy that values men over women.
The Way Forward
Stronger Law Enforcement: Strict action against dowry demands without delays.
Changing Mindset: Education, awareness, and conversations at the family level are crucial.
Celebrating Simple Marriages: Highlighting couples and families who reject dowry can set examples.
Women Empowerment: Financial independence of women can reduce dependency on dowry-based marriages.
Conclusion
Dowry is not just a tradition—it is a curse that destroys lives and families. Until society collectively decides to reject it, laws and campaigns will only scratch the surface. Real change will come when people stop measuring marriages in terms of wealth and start valuing respect, equality, and love.
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